Life is Conflict

When I face a Conflict especially with a loved one I feel very sad, I become quiet, then I start analyse the situation; why it hapened, what is my role, my responses, how I reacted, what gone wrong? Why I could not communicate properly? Why I am misunderstood? I discover my weak points and repair it. Next time I use my learnings to respond, still Conflict happens. Some one truely has told that only dead persons has no conflict; I am living and my responses sayI am trying to live a better life.

Conflict is a part of life, it is a pattern of relating also. In day-to-day life, with the person you have more affection, you face more conflict. Conflict also says that the relation is alive. This helps you to express yourself with honesty; in formal office structures you have very less open conflict, as you follow a structured pattern of behaviour only and never cross the line. In a intimate relation you throw away the formal behaviour, be yourself and bare yourself openly. You dare to expose your opinions, your love and hate. This may cause conflict with your mate who may be of other characteristic.

In spousal conflicts, if you both are honest to each other, the conflict ends in deeper understanding. If there is an unequal feelings conflict may create an artificial coating on self, if you want to save the relation; then you start posing and avoid conflict and you create a formal set of behaviour. This is an unfortunate sutuation, as persons do not or trust each other, but stay together with some purpose only. This weakens the relationship.
If you dare to bear more and provide more room to openess and honest expression, you may invite conflict, but your relations becomes more stronger and also you are. Artificiality in behaviuor weakens personality so also the realtionship.